It was just the other day when my friend was mentioning that her son loves reading books and his favorite one is Tomboy Tina who loved wearing dungarees and did not want to change into dress for a party. But, when her cousin Zara meets Tina, she understands and transforms her appearance by giving her loads of confidence.
That’s when I got reminded of Tomboy Tina that I had met a year back. She was in her early twenties and used to think that dressing up like a man would keep unwanted attention at bay. She wanted to portray herself as a strong, independent person, and especially as son of the family. So she was wearing clothes that were more like a man.
Her parents introduced me to her and wanted a transformation for her. When I met her, I realized that she idolizes her father and wanted to always become like him and in the bargain, had started dressing up like him. Now, she has become comfortable in those clothes. I worked closely with her for next couple of months and observed that she too wanted to dress and feel good but was not sure, how to do it?
Here, the transformation had to be internal first for it to be visible external. You have to start accepting your own self first, fall in love with yourself.
And, yes, the transformation did happen for real life Tina and today she is very happy in her personal and professional life, projecting herself as Strong and Elegant.